Planning and organizing a wedding is not easy. If you have a lot of free time, a great desire, and strong nerves, you can easily arrange a wedding yourself. But, faced for the first time with new tasks and situations, the bride may not know what to do, where to start, and how to avoid failures. In this article, we have gathered 12 common mistakes when planning your wedding on your own.
1. You think that you will do everything better
This thought sneaks into the minds of brides who wish to invent, organize, and control everything on their own. Let your mother, mother-in-law, or friend help you in some matters since they often want to benefit the common cause. If you do everything on your own, you will get tired long before the wedding day.
2. Passion for hand-made projects
After reading and watching pictures from different weddings, where the newlyweds themselves made decorations, gifts, and props, you are full of ideas and are ready to do many things for the wedding with your own hands. But it looks easy and exciting until you start implementing your ideas. This takes a long time and is not always justified. Choose a few exciting ideas and you are ready to spend time on their implementation. For others less attractive, look for ready-made solutions to save time for more important things.
3. Striving to lose weight radically
Many brides want to lose weight before the wedding. But after all, your fiance loves you the way you are, and he or she made an offer right now, which means that everything suits him or her. You need time to get ready for the wedding, not the exhausting daily exercise until you lose extra pounds. You should eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly. But you don’t need to strive to lose 30 pounds in 2 months since this is dangerous to health and threatens with nervous exhaustion.
4. Experimenting with look and style
There is no need to try a new hair color, do a haircut that you have never done, and experiment with a tan on the eve of the wedding. The desire to be beautiful can sometimes play a cruel joke. Additionally, you shouldn’t buy new creams and cosmetics of the brand that you have not used to avoid getting allergies.
5. Going over budget
If you have made a rough estimate of how much money, you need to adhere to this plan. Otherwise, there will not be enough money for essential things if you spend most of the money on little things. Planning a wedding on your own requires careful attention to the essential items of preparation.
6. Not ordering a photographer
If your relatives or one of your friends assures you that he or she has an excellent camera and they will shoot everything for free, don’t agree with this idea. Photos are what will remain from the wedding day and everyone wants them to be beautiful. Guests come to the holiday to have fun and eat, instead of working as a photographer. Those few photos can turn out to be not of high quality because it is unlikely that a non-professional can see all the interesting angles. You can let a friend take photos but it is better to hire a photographer and videographer.
7. Procrastinate
A timing plan for the bride and groom is a necessary and important thing. Think about when you can take the time to buy a dress, choose rings, meet with contractors, etc. The most important thing is a marriage registration application. Many couples, having chosen the desired date, come to the registry office too late. So they simply don’t get the desired date, since the filing rule has not been observed or it is already busy all the time.
This should be taken into account when planning an exit ceremony. You should calculate the trip to the registry office so that by the time of the ceremony you have already received a marriage certificate. When buying a dress, it is important to remember that it may not be your size and you will have to sew it or adjust the existing one according to the figure. This takes time, from a week to a month. That’s why it is better to buy a dress 3-4 weeks before the wedding.
8. Take offense
During the preparation for the wedding, the brides only think about the upcoming celebration and are ready to constantly talk about it, discussing the details of the holiday for hours. It is worth not forgetting that other people have a lot of their own worries and problems and they get tired of hearing for the fifth time about which dress or bouquet you want. There is no need to be offended if someone tactfully stops you or turns the conversation in another direction. Perhaps you have a friend who is also planning a wedding soon or who recently had it. You can discuss your plans with them since there will definitely be common topics of conversation.
9. Quarreling with others
The closer the wedding day, the more heated the situation becomes. You want to invite some guests, and your parents offer more cousins. You wish to register in the garden, and the groom wants to be near the river. The witness is also busy and doesn’t help with the preparation. Try not to shout and blame everyone, but to find out the solution. Maybe you should revisit your guest list, find a place that works for the two of you, and ask your friend how they are doing. Find a compromise and everyone will be happy.
10. Forgetting about the groom
Wedding bustles are so addictive to brides that sometimes they simply forget about their groom. The constant search for ideas, shopping trips, meetings, and fitting take up a lot of time. In many cases, brides don’t consult their future husbands on various issues. Don’t forget about who and why the wedding is being prepared. Men are usually less emotional and don’t react like women, but this doesn’t mean that he is not worried either. So surround your groom with love and care and wedding preparation will bring you closer together.
11. Worrying and not getting enough sleep
Many brides are worried and stressed before the wedding, eat poorly, and don’t have enough sleep. As a result, they may look exhausted, sad, and unhappy at their weddings. To feel harmonious, you should take care of your psychological and physical health. Limit the time you spend at the computer, sleep well, maintain a healthy diet, and don't worry about every little thing.
12. Getting hung up on the perfect wedding.
All brides dream of the perfect wedding. Such perfectionism is not always justified. This is life and it is worth realizing that something may not go according to plan. Anything can happen (rain, traffic jams, etc.) and there is no guarantee that some trifle will not spoil the mood. You need to be prepared for such minor troubles and not worry about them. Otherwise, you can destroy the wedding on your own.
